Are you a mum or dad raising a family? So many carers now want to supplement their family time with getting advanced qualifications and studying so they can diversify their already busy and full lives.
There are so many reasons for this. Studying helps to keep you connected, keeps your skills current, makes you more attractive to prospective employers and helps you really live out your personal and professional goals.
Think of all the things you could achieve. Do you want to start your own business? Write a book? Learn computer programming? Gain a qualification that would allow you to work from home, such as accounting? The options are pretty much endless.
It’s never too late (or too hard) to study for something new
In today’s competitive world, more and more people are recognising that a good education is integral to achieving the life that you want. Whether it’s via a vocational course, diploma, degree, or master’s program, it’s important to take any chance to learn and further your own skill and talent.
But what happens if you feel that you just don’t have any time to devote to classes and studies? Let’s face it: getting your qualification while working and raising a family will challenge and stretch you more than ever before, but the good news is that it can be done.
Many graduates have balanced their personal life, work, and studies very successfully. Today there are so many flexible study options for you to consider – and with quicker internet speeds, more advanced learning platforms, better connectivity and more choices of online quals – you’re in a great position if you want to study – but have many family commitments to consider as well.
If you’re a full-time parent or work a full-time job and are thinking about furthering your studies, or if you’ve already taken that big step but find yourself lacking in motivation, Upskilled has something for you. Here are the ten hacks to getting that diploma despite your busy schedule.
10 hacks for studying while balancing work and family obligations
- Have a plan.
- Build a support network.
- Plan your curriculum.
- Make allowance for emergencies.
- Maximise your time.
- Simplify your life.
- Find a study buddy.
- Spend time with your children.
- Be confident.
- Take things one step at a time.
1. Have a plan.
American entrepreneur, author, and motivational speaker, Jim Rohn said, “If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” The most important thing is to really work through all the fine details.
Sit down and go through everything, and consider all angles of your goal. What career or personal outcomes are you aiming for? How many modules or units does your course contain? Many students choose courses that are flexible because this allows them the freedom to study according to their availability. No net start or finish dates can also be very helpful.
Once you have all of the information that you need and have some sort of strategy, you are now to do the rest of your research. Consider all the things that will make your life easier. Do you have access to a decent computer? Do you have a quiet study space set up? Can someone look after the kids a couple of hours a week to give you some “you” time?
2. Build a support network.
One of the most important resources that you have as you juggle all your responsibilities is your support system. Make sure that your employer, spouse or partner, friends, and extended family are backing you 100%. Your employer may delegate some of your work commitments to your peers allowing you to make time for studies.
Ask your family beforehand if they would be willing to handle more duties relating to the caring of the children and household. If this is impossible, then that’s OK – use lateral thinking to work around the problem. Find small snippets of time to get some of your work in – it’s not always easy but if you’re motivated, it can be done.
If you’re a sole parent, consider locating a reliable babysitter or daycare centre. If your children are older, it may be useful to enlist their help in running the household and looking after the younger ones (under supervision, that is!)
3. Plan your curriculum.
It’s a good idea not to overload your schedule with study work that may be more difficult or demanding than it needs to be. Short blocks of allocated time are fine – there is no need to have full days devoted to study.
Work out when your best study times are. Are you a night owl? A morning person? Do you like to listen to music or do you need silence? Spread your working tasks out so that you have a good balance between challenging modules of work and easier ones. This will allow you more time to work, study, and devote time to your family.
4. Make allowance for emergencies.
Every parent knows that children are frequently down with the flu, ear infections, or mild cases of conjunctivitis. Maybe your kids are just having a “grizzly day” and need a bit more attention than normal? Factor this in to your plan – well in advance.
Because of the unpredictable nature of kids, keeping track of your schedule is very important. Mark down due dates, when tasks are due, quizzes, and presentations. Master the art of frontloading or doing your work in advance to make room for anything that may come up in the future. Try your best not to get behind. And don’t feel too overwhelmed – have a positive attitude - think, “I got this!”
5. Maximise your time.
In a world with so many distractions, it’s important to minimise outside “noise”. Turn your TV off, put the phone on silent, and just focus on doing your work. Cassandra George-Sturges, author and parent says, “If you have a favourite TV show, watch it, but don’t idle in front of the TV.” This means don’t channel surf aimlessly. Plan time to relax and plan your tasks hour by hour and when it’s time to get to work – sit down and don’t procrastinate.
Maximising your time also means learning to prioritise. Pencil in time with the kids. Spend a bit of time on the weekends to catch up with family and friends. Allow yourself to be human. Treat yourself to nice things – an hour to read a book, a decent cup of coffee, a phone call with your mum or best friend to just talk about “you”.
6. Simplify your life.
Think about what you can cut back on. There is no need to be a martyr! Can the washing wait one more day? Do you really need to make time for that friend who’s bugging you daily for your time? Do the in-laws really have to visit this weekend – couldn’t you meet them at a local café instead?
Cut back where you can. If you spend too much time in the evening cooking, learn some simpler recipes and order takeaway on the weekends. Buy comfortable clothes. Arrange your home so that it’s streamlined, meaning you can study or work while you’re watching your children. If this means moving their toys and crib into the living room, then so be it.
7. Find a study buddy.
Seek out other parents who are in the same boat. If you’re enrolled in online or distance classes, utilise the forums to find other studying and working parents in the same area. Your children will be able to play together as you study, or you’ll be able to take turns watching over the children as you adjust to the demands of work and school.
Either way, it’s a win-win situation. You and your kids both make new friends and you’re able to free up more time to work. Connect wide your community – many libraries and community groups run programs for mums, dads and other parents to meet up for various tasks. Take advantage of what’s free and local.
8. Spend time with your children.
Remember that your children are a big reason for the sacrifices that you’re making, so don’t let them be the excuse for not pushing yourself to fulfill your dreams. Instead, be inspired by them and hope that one day, they will be inspired by you.
Find some time to spend with them. Physical activities like playing in the park or a day at the beach will help you release a bit of tension and will also tire them out and allow them to sleep earlier and longer through the night. Factor “other activities” into your weekly plan, alongside your study tasks.
9. Be confident.
Yes, YOU! Think of all the things you have already achieved. Having a family is a big task and offers big rewards. Think of your career history – whatever it is, and be proud of what you’ve done in the past. Remember who you are and focus on your dreams. Know that you CAN achieve what you set out to do.
It’s easy to lose confidence, especially if you feel that you’ve been out of the loop for sometime. But it’s easy to get back into things, it really is. The trick is to keep focused and to never lose sight of your goal. After all, education is one of the most valuable things you can do to better yourself. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you want to achieve as long as you have the desire for it. Only you can truly live your dreams. No one can do this for you.
10. Take things one step at a time.
The demands of your courses, your job, and your family might seem overwhelming but you are not alone! Remember that every day brings you one step closer to your goal, and every completed requirement, project, or responsibility is a small, but very real, victory.
Keep in mind that every day is another chance to make the best out of the only life that you have and to make the lives of your children ones that they deserve. Whether you’re a mum, dad or other carer – make sure you remember to focus on what you want for your own future. You truly deserve it.
How parents can create flexibility in their work schedule
- Negotiate a hybrid work schedule.
- Adopt a schedule where you can start early and finish early.
- Speak to your boss about wanting to go part-time.
Parents generally have a hectic schedule, particularly when managing both obligations as a parent and at work. Perhaps you're someone that has a job where you have a strict schedule, and don't have the flexibility to leave early so you can pick up the kids from school.
If you're currently working in a role where you feel overwhelmed with juggling both work and parenting responsibilities, here are some ways you can create more flexibility when it comes to your schedule:
1. Negotiate a hybrid work schedule.
A hybrid work schedule
has proven to come with the benefits of being able to work from home, as well as the social aspect and team collaboration in the workplace. By negotiating a hybrid way of working, you come at an advantage where you get to split your time in the office and at home. Speak to your boss about working from home 2 or 3 days during the work week and explain the incredible upsides it has in meeting both your work and parenting obligations.
2. Adopt a schedule where you can start early and finish early.
This is a great alternative for the morning people. If you want to wrap up work right before school time finishes, it might be worth negotiating starting work earlier and finishing in time to pick up the kids. By starting work at 7am and finishing at 3pm, this will give you a time allowance to tend to both your work and parenting obligations. It also gives you room to spend time with the kids and get them ready for the school day ahead.
3. Speak to your boss about wanting to go part-time.
If you feel that your parenting duties are hard to balance with full-time work, consider reducing your hours and going part-time. This gives you the opportunity to have more time on your hands and feel more present with the kids. Working a 3 or 4 day week can help you have a better grasp of your priorities and be in control of managing your time.
Get set to achieve your study goals
We want to hear from you! What sort of struggles do you have with managing work, family, and your studies? Do you have any techniques that make life a little bit easier for you?
If you're interested in studying online, Upskilled has plenty of online courses available in business, community services and IT. This may make things easier if you're trying to balance both work and family obligations, as the courses we offer include flexibility in being able to study anywhere, anytime.
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Editor's note: This article was originally published in June 2017. Content has been revamped and updated for accuracy and comprehensiveness.